Low Self Esteem

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Self-esteem is how you think and feel about yourself; this may be positive, negative or move between the two points. This usually dictates how you live your life and the decisions you make – and how you view others too.
The more positive feelings you have about yourself, the higher your self-esteem is; the more negative feelings you have the lower your self-esteem is.

 

A world where people continually compare themselves with those around them, highlights our insecurities and often leads us to feel negative about ourselves and the way we live.  We lose sight of the value of our own individuality and then feel inadequate and unsatisfied. It can become an enduring personality trait.

 

Working to improve your self-esteem takes time and effort. It requires courage and honesty to confront the things in yourself you don’t like but long-term it is a worthwhile task which should help you to feel better about yourself and your life.

 

Working Minds will be with you each step of the way.

Symptoms of low self-esteem

  • feeling worthless
  • feeling incompetent and unrealistic about our abilities
  • feeling unloved
  • being overwhelmed with fear and negative thoughts
  • being unrealistic about goals
  • being drawn into destructive relationships
  • fear of change
  • distorted views of self and others.

 

What causes low self-esteem?

Our esteem develops from our experiences and relationships from birth. Negative experiences and troubled relationships lower it, and good experiences and strong bonds raise it. No single event or person determines your level of self-esteem, it develops over time and can change with time and events.

 

Healthy self-esteem allows people to be realistic about goals, accept criticism, learn from mistakes and be adventurous but not reckless. Low self-esteem makes people fearful and unrealistic about goals and risks, which further dents their self-image. They also compare themselves unfavourably with others and have little natural ability to protect themselves.

 

Negative experiences and troubled relationships can lower self-esteem but it is constantly changing. Some people may be less resilient to recover from set-backs and may need to find an external source of strength to help them change.

Our approach

Self-esteem is central to who we are and central to the process of change. Change might mean taking a hard look at ourselves and feeling strong enough to change the things that we don’t like.

 

Working Minds will offer you a blended approach.

 

Counselling may help you focus on your needs, or Transactional Analysis might help if you need a more concrete model to help. CBT will work with you to monitor negative self-beliefs, faulty thoughts and assumptions if you prefer to consider some of the negative thought processes you feel keep you trapped. For those who wish to understand more about their low self-esteem a Psychodynamic or Attachment approach might appeal. Taking a new, objective view of your personal history can allow you to see more clearly your present situation without feeling blamed. It can also offer an opportunity to see if early patterns and habits are repeated in your current relationships, both at home and in the wider world. Your Therapist will ensure you feel comfortable and will walk with you through this process so you do not feel alone. When you value your own uniqueness and start to feel good about some aspects of yourself you can allow yourself to be more realistic about your goals.

 

The route to higher self-esteem, and thinking more positively about yourself means you will understand more about:-

  • Acceptance – of your true strengths and weaknesses
  • Help – with realistic goals to allow you to develop your abilities
  • Encouragement –with realistic planning and timetabling
  • Praise – for your achievements so you can enjoy them
  • Respect – to be proud of who you are
  • Trust – feel more confident in your own thoughts and feelings
  • Time – learn to know yourself and enjoy your own thoughts.

 

Raising your own self-esteem means feeling good and realistic about yourself and others. Working Minds Therapy will help you to think more positively and realistically about yourself, developing your talents and abilities. Then you will be more able to praise yourself, trust yourself and like yourself.



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What our clients have to say…

Russell W – New Volunteer

Over the course of the sessions I have had with Simon I have gone from someone who probably would not have been able to carry on for much longer the way that I was, to someone that is now looking forward to working and moving on with my life...

Russell W - New Volunteer

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2017-03-02T14:28:32+00:00

Russell W - New Volunteer

Over the course of the sessions I have had with Simon I have gone from someone who probably would not have been able to carry on for much longer the way that I was, to someone that is now looking forward to working and moving on with my life...

Ann B – Business Co-ordinator

I want to thank you for the valuable time you spent with me to achieve my career and life goals. I really appreciate the support and advice you gave me.

Ann B – Business Co-ordinator

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Ann B – Business Co-ordinator

I want to thank you for the valuable time you spent with me to achieve my career and life goals. I really appreciate the support and advice you gave me.
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