Low Self Confidence

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Self-confidence is about trusting your own judgement and feeling comfortable with your abilities and powers. It is the means to realise your full potential and be the person you want to be. Self-confidence allows you to feel secure in the world and allows others to feel safe that they know what to expect of you. It is made up of a variety of factors, including how you present yourself physically to the world and how you relate to other people.

 

Sound self-confidence can bring benefits to all areas of your life, including relationships, career, social life and state of mind. Some people are self-confident in their work-life but not in their social life, we all differ. People feel comfortable with confident people as they are usually predictable and their behaviour is reliable.

 

Self-confidence differs from self-esteem. Although the two terms are used interchangeably there are differences which can have an impact on finding a way forward. The word ‘confidence’ comes from the Latin word to trust or have faith. Confident people set realistic goals, learn useful skills and undertake tasks to get to where they want to be. Confidence is linked with the external world and how others see us; how we present ourselves and what we achieve. Self-esteem, however, is more about our own relationship with ourselves and how we feel deep down about who we are.

 

The two traits are linked but not always connected. A person might work hard and acquire skills and polish to compensate for a deep feeling of low-esteem, and be considered highly competent and successful in the eyes of others.

 

Many high achievers are driven by this compensatory need, but often the hoped-for sense of satisfaction evades them causing them to overwork or seek refuge in some other area. So, self-confidence may be developed alongside self-esteem or independently.

 

Self-confidence is a skill that can be developed through realistic goal setting and planning. A solid foundation of self-esteem may be desirable, especially if previous attempts to improve your confidence have failed.

 

Signs you have low self-confidence

Your level of self-confidence can be seen by others in many ways; in your body language, your behaviour, how you speak and how you react to different situations. Self-confident people are generally more positive and believe in themselves and their abilities, whereas those with low self-confidence often have negative thoughts about themselves and their ability, which then leads to a downward spiral of under-achievement and disappointment.

 

If you have low self-confidence you may feel:

  • you fail at everything and are unsuccessful
  • you have no drive or direction
  • shy and uneasy
  • a sense of uselessness and worthlessness
  • inferior to others
  • bitter about work, social and family relationships.

There may be some areas of your life where you feel confident and others where you do not. It is important to assess this to understand that learning and skills can be a bridge to confidence. Maybe you are confident with one or two close friends but not with strangers. It may be that you are confident with animals or children but not with adults. You may be able to cook but unable to sing. Confident people build on what they can do and confront honestly what they are lacking in, accepting constructive criticism and support.

 

Causes of low self-confidence

Your early environment and influences often have a major effect on how your confidence has developed throughout your early life – along with your own disposition and resilience. Many siblings brought up have very different levels of confidence. Children who are encouraged to speak their mind openly usually retain the habit. Children who have been unable to make their needs understood or have not overcome a learning difficulty might feel there is no way forward or opportunities for them

Our approach

Everyone has their own strengths, abilities and skills to enhance their self-confidence and become who they want to eventually be. We will help you establish or remind you of what they are. Working together we’ll help plan a step by step way forward in chunks you can manage and that are realistic. map out the small steps towards where you would ideally like to be.

 

Counselling, Hypnotherapy and Cognitive Coaching are common therapies used to help improve self-confidence. We will offer a safe space to consider what is realistic and achievable and provide a safe place to explore disappointments and set-backs. Techniques and strategies can be developed to build your self-confidence and change current negative thinking. If set-backs have seemed insurmountable it may be worth exploring why with us.



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What our clients have to say…

Russell W – New Volunteer

Over the course of the sessions I have had with Simon I have gone from someone who probably would not have been able to carry on for much longer the way that I was, to someone that is now looking forward to working and moving on with my life...

Russell W - New Volunteer

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2017-03-02T14:28:32+00:00

Russell W - New Volunteer

Over the course of the sessions I have had with Simon I have gone from someone who probably would not have been able to carry on for much longer the way that I was, to someone that is now looking forward to working and moving on with my life...

Ann B – Business Co-ordinator

I want to thank you for the valuable time you spent with me to achieve my career and life goals. I really appreciate the support and advice you gave me.

Ann B – Business Co-ordinator

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2017-03-02T14:16:26+00:00

Ann B – Business Co-ordinator

I want to thank you for the valuable time you spent with me to achieve my career and life goals. I really appreciate the support and advice you gave me.
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